Why do Hollywood movies need to make relationships look perfect and gives us an unrealistic view of love?
Is the girl really going to fall in love at first sight? Will she leave her family and friends because she fell in love with a stranger? It you agree with me, you cannot believe such a thing could happen.
With that said, I decided to do a further research on relationships and love, and here’s what I found:
Relationships might have a better chance to work if both partners have self-esteem and mutual respect. They need to be independent as individuals and establish intimacy as they progress.
Nobody can stand the obsessive partner that cannot let you go to Walmart without consent. Obsessive relationships tend to be very radical, and partners might feel trapped or in charge of each other’s life.
Communication is vital to the endurance of relationships. Partners that cannot communicate well will have a higher possibility to break up or divorce. With communication you can establish, maintain and nourish relationships.
Partners that are flexible and understanding will be able to bounce back from confrontation better than others. Arguments exist in all relationships, but it’s how we deal with them that can either improve or ruin them.
Remember, relationships are a second step from friendships; partners should be friends first. They should also enjoy each other’s company as well as time pursing their own goals.
Most people have experienced the cycles or stages of love where we transition from intense passion to intimacy, and then commitment. At first, we might feel like we are in a roller-coaster, starting with great happiness to deep depths of despair.
It hurts, and most people do not know how to deal with it.
Psychology Robert Sternberg said that these cycles will gradually decrease as the relationship develops and progresses. After a period, the passion decreases and becomes affection, empathy, tolerance, caring and attachment.
At that time, partners will become more involved with social activities and still have a connection with each other. Relationships will need intimacy, passion and commitment to succeed.
If partners have intimacy and commitment but no passion, it might lead to compassionate love where both have a long-term friendship with each other.
More importantly, partners need to understand that their relationship won’t be the same as those portrayed in Hollywood movies. That’s okay, it only means they are living in the real world where fairy tales are not allowed.
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No there are only a few marriages in Hollywood I believe are real. The rest are what publicist create.
ReplyDeleteI think Hollywood depictions of love are unrealistic, but only harmful if you buy into it and expect your relationships to be movie-like.
ReplyDelete^^ Jeff hahaha. I think media has helped flatten the world to connect each other but has also hurt the world by high-lighting fantasies and not real issues like commitment and communication.
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