What guys hate in women

Guys claim they like everything in a girl, but let’s be honest, that’s not how it goes.

With that said, there are many things that guys don’t like in women, and today I’ll explain a couple of them to you.

Guys are simple– too simple if you ask me. They won’t ask you to look like a Victoria’s Secret model or own a mansion, but they do look for certain types of girls.

Men do not like nagging women, and to be fair, nobody does. It really upsets me when somebody is constantly pointing out my mistakes and flaws. Don’t be that complaining person that can do nothing but demand and complain.

If something went wrong today, just move along and keep a positive mindset. Tomorrow might be better. Stop bringing negativity into people’s lives.

If you dropped your ice cream, stop complaining and go get another one. It’s not the end of your life, just move along and smile.

I’ve seen many relationships be torn apart because the woman could not stop nagging, and it literally drove the guy nuts. Please, take things slow. Let your man breathe and have a good life.

The drama-queen is definitely not a good catch either. I’ve heard many of my guy friends complain about how dramatic their girlfriends are.

Little issues can become the end of the world just because the girl is too full of drama and chaos.

A broken nail sucks, and it will take weeks to be perfect again. I get it, we are more sensitive than guys, but there is no need to make a huge deal out of a broken nail.

There will be other problems in your life, bigger problems, and you will have to be able to deal with it.

As a woman, I understand that we do like to expose our feelings and have reassurance, but being overly dramatic about a topic is definitely not the way to go. It will drive people away from you, leaving you with more drama to talk about it.

If you still want to be dramatic, please have your own TV show. I’ll make sure not to watch it.

Guys do not like the overly jealous woman that cannot go a few hours without calling, texting or snap chatting just to ask if the boyfriend is doing well.

You don’t have to know if your man ate tuna salad or a turkey sandwich at this lunch break. A little privacy, please?

If you need to be checking on your man every hour to make sure he is not with another girl, I suggest you leave him and find a better and suitable boyfriend. You do not need this stress in your life.

If you do not trust him, then why be in a relationship with him at all? Don’t be intimidated by his girl friends; he is with you because he wants to be with you. Grow some faith.

The calorie-crazy women will make any guy run in a week, or even less. There’s nothing worse than the food crazy person that cannot stop talking about protein, calories, fat, carbohydrates, etc.

If you want to be crazy about calories, then maybe you should marry a nutritionist, because no guy would be willing to put up with this food craziness.

Guys are simple but expect confidence, intelligence, spontaneousness, playfulness and honesty from his woman.

A version of this article was published at The Vista 

Getting over a break up

One day you are making plans to have a family with your loved one, and the next day he is telling you he doesn't love you anymore and that he is moving to Australia. I know, sounds crazy, but it happens.

Getting over a break up is harder than you think. At first, you might be in total shock that he or she broke it off, but then the realization comes and you start to think about the good times spent traveling, cooking a delicious gluten-free meal or even going to Walmart together; things that you took for granted before, but just now you realize how precious they were.

"Get over him, he was not good enough for you anyways. He cannot be the one for you." "She is so mean to you, get over her. You'll find someone better." It's easier said than done, believe me.

People always want to tell us that everything will be alright, that we just need wine, chocolate ice cream and a good movie.

I won't lie, I do need the ice cream, but the pity talk from others won't make me feel any better-- save that for yourself.

The worst part of a broken heart, is the trust that was lost. How I am supposed to trust anybody if the person I trusted the most promised me the world, and soon turned my world upside down? They wanted to build a life with you, but suddenly had better plans ahead, and of course you were not included.

It's not going to be easy, it will take time. Maybe months, years, maybe even decades-- who knows. But most importantly-- accept the changes and move on.

Get yourself a busy schedule. Maybe take some yoga classes, go to the mall and buy all the shoes you like  and go out with your friends for a drink or two.

Try cooking yummy meals, learning a language or even taking a vacation. Change your hair or the way you used to dress. Find a floral dress that was hanging in your closet forever and maybe try to renovate your look. Blue hair maybe? Anything that can distract you will help.

Look after yourself and stay positive. The relationship might be over, but you are still alive and well, so why worry? Being single is not the end of the world.

A Better Understanding on Love

Hollywood love stories entertained many people decades ago, but do you really believe these love stories could be real?

Why do Hollywood movies need to make relationships look perfect and gives us an unrealistic view of love?

Is the girl really going to fall in love at first sight? Will she leave her family and friends because she fell in love with a stranger? It you agree with me, you cannot believe such a thing could happen.

With that said, I decided to do a further research on relationships and love, and here’s what I found:
Relationships might have a better chance to work if both partners have self-esteem and mutual respect. They need to be independent as individuals and establish intimacy as they progress.

Nobody can stand the obsessive partner that cannot let you go to Walmart without consent. Obsessive relationships tend to be very radical, and partners might feel trapped or in charge of each other’s life.

Communication is vital to the endurance of relationships. Partners that cannot communicate well will have a higher possibility to break up or divorce. With communication you can establish, maintain and nourish relationships.

Partners that are flexible and understanding will be able to bounce back from confrontation better than others. Arguments exist in all relationships, but it’s how we deal with them that can either improve or ruin them.

Remember, relationships are a second step from friendships; partners should be friends first. They should also enjoy each other’s company as well as time pursing their own goals.

Most people have experienced the cycles or stages of love where we transition from intense passion to intimacy, and then commitment. At first, we might feel like we are in a roller-coaster, starting with great happiness to deep depths of despair.

It hurts, and most people do not know how to deal with it.

Psychology Robert Sternberg said that these cycles will gradually decrease as the relationship develops and progresses. After a period, the passion decreases and becomes affection, empathy, tolerance, caring and attachment.

At that time, partners will become more involved with social activities and still have a connection with each other. Relationships will need intimacy, passion and commitment to succeed.

If partners have intimacy and commitment but no passion, it might lead to compassionate love where both have a long-term friendship with each other.

More importantly, partners need to understand that their relationship won’t be the same as those portrayed in Hollywood movies. That’s okay, it only means they are living in the real world where fairy tales are not allowed.

 

A version of this was posted at This Vista 

Are you "Facebook Official"?

Social Media takes a huge part of your life, Facebook included.

Some couples do not believe they are dating until they have changed their status on Facebook. As silly as it sounds, it happens to most relationships.

According to the Urban Dictionary, Facebook official the ultimate definition of a college relationship- when one''s Facebook says "In a Relationship" with your other's name listed next to it.

The pressure usually relies on one partner to change his or her Facebook status, and due to the amount of pressure, and insecurities from the other, the person usually decides to update their status.

The ongoing cycle starts when both agree to change their status, and it develops to "We are engaged, to "We just got married," and then "We just had a baby."

I ask myself, does the status on Facebook really matter this much? 

Some young adults would say no, explaining that posting a picture with their significant other, or a cute video together is far more important than changing their status. 

Some would rather change their profile picture to one with their partner, as a way of saying "I'm taken, back off.

Changing the status on Facebook can be good for some couples, but it certainty doesn't work for everybody. I've seen people making up and breaking up almost every month, and let me tell you, it's quite annoying. 

Solve your relationship problems out of social media, and give us all a break for once.  

A version of this was posted at The Vista